“Dorian Gray wants to remain the same till the end and also wishes that his painting would bear all the destruction or changes instead of him and in return, he is willing to give his own soul.” Quote from Notable Book.
I have heard the statement, “I can’t forgive myself,” many times. I have even said it.
The truth is, “If I could forgive myself, I would not need God!” What a concept! That was a quote I heard a woman say on Bott Radio Network; The Complete Story. This woman had 3 abortions believing she was just ending a pregnancy. When she realized that she had killed her children, she was able to experience God’s forgiveness.
If I could forgive myself, I would be free to make any choice I want. I could live anyway that I desire. I could be impulsive and not worry about any consequences. Self forgiveness would not obligate me to live in any certain way or change my attitudes or behavior.I would have no need to walk in humility or repentance. I could be proud and forgive myself for it. The same sin could be repeated in my life, and I would not need to repent and change.
I am happy that I cannot forgive myself, for if indeed I could forgive myself, my soul would turn into an horrible disfigured image just like the portrait of Dorian Gray.
It is also true that I will not forgive myself. I feel that keenly. I have done unforgivable things; made unforgivable choices. I blame myself. Sure there were others that contributed to those choices, but I made them. I will forever hold myself responsible for the domino effect my sins and choices have made on those I love.
I do not desire to forgive myself. I deserve to hurt and suffer the consequences of my behavior. Indeed, I punish myself in many ways. And yet, I feel the need for forgiveness. To truly live and to function in a healthy way is dependent on forgiveness. Otherwise, my choices will always be dictated by what I think I deserve instead of what God wants for me.
God’s forgiveness is a doctrine; a way of thinking and a way of life. The fruit of God’s forgiveness results in humility, because I am nothing and He is all in all; I have to acknowledge who He is and who I am. It results in repentance, because He is good and His goodness becomes imbedded in me, enabling me to not live according to who I am, but to live according to who He is in me. It is newness of life!
God’s forgiveness means that I can leave my loved ones and the suffering I have caused them in God’s hands, because He loves them much more than I do. He is also their Redeemer and will work for their good. Their salvation and sanctification does not depend on whether or not I forgive myself, but on His mercy to them.
It is a good thing that I cannot forgive myself. It is only God that can forgive, and I am not Him. My forgiveness is based on pride, because that would mean that I esteemed myself as someone who can forgive my sin. I therefore choose the forgiveness of God, not my forgiveness.
I will bow to the forgiveness of God and accept His mercy and His grace. I will rest in His forgiveness and be done with the struggle of forgiving myself. I can walk in the light of his forgiveness and be free to receive from His hand, bearing the image of God instead of myself.
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